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Honoring Conflict as a Path to Love
NOW FORMING A NEW GROUP
A Three-part Group Course led by Chris Spicer
Human relationships inevitably stumble into difficult patterns of conflict.
Many of us look for help to get rid of that. I work differently. I believe conflict is a primary source of, and the path to connection.
Our group work will provide the support and guidance to learn how to change your relationship to conflict – to honor it instead of avoiding it. To actually “embrace the fight”! And in doing so, move from separation to connection with our life relationships!
I am looking to gather a new small group of people who are ready to dive into this relationship work. Please let me know of your interest and availability and when we have the minimum number ready to go, I’ll work logistics and begin.
Who should attend?
This course is ideal for everyone who wants to learn more about conflict: singles and any relationship constellation (including partnership, friendship, parent/child (from 18 years), or siblings, regardless of sexual or gender choices.
What you will learn:
- Easing resistance to conflict
- Working with judgment and criticism
- Finding the real issues beneath a conflict
- Setting clear and caring boundaries
- Coming to terms with hurt, sadness and anger
- Practice new ways of speaking – or not speaking – up
- Ways of communicating your needs
- Awareness on how you project your own story to your partner
~ What is it about conflict that makes it so uncomfortable to face?
Certainly, it is about a lot of pain, despair, and loss. There is lot of fear and the threat of being vulnerable. We resort to the defensive and protective mechanisms that we’ve “practiced” over many years, all of which lead to blaming and judging.
~ What is it about the blame and judgement spiral that makes it so difficult to break?
We get trapped in our negative narrative, our vital, precious stories – the ones that we’ve been telling ourselves for a long time and that we truly believe and rely on.
~ How can conflict help us get beyond that?
Conflict drags us face to face with that vital story. The person we are in relationship with (or desire to be) as “the other” holds a mirror to ourselves, showing us what needs healing. We then can let go of the blaming and reconsider meeting our needs in new ways. If we’re willing to see conflict as an opportunity to encounter this mirror, we see the pointlessness, destructiveness, and ineffectiveness of running from it.
